Pat Mesiti – Soaring Higher

Pat Mesiti International Motivational Speaker gives you principles to soar higher!
(excerpt taken from Pat Mesiti’s new book “Soaring Higher”)

The greatest remedy for anger is delay

Why would I address anger in a motivational book? The simple answer is everybody gets angry. Every day we hear people say, 'That person made me angry’, ‘That person made me mad’, ‘My wife/ husband made me angry’, ‘My boss makes me angry’. The truth is, anger is a choice.

I have learned that if you are angry and lash out, you generally don't achieve what you want. Anger is a natural part of life and it cannot be ignored. It must be managed. Amazingly, anger motivated Lee Iacocca to save Chrysler. He managed his anger in a positive way. You can be so angry about a situation that you will actually do something to fix it in a very positive way. You can prepare for action when you are angry. But never forget that you can do both great things and awful things when you are angry.

We all face anger, so how do we handle it? First, let me tell you how not to handle anger. Don't be aggressive. If we handle our anger using aggression we actually hurt people. If you kick the lawn mower or the washing machine, it doesn't make one bit of difference to those machines. Instead, you end up hurting yourself. That is a misuse of anger. Aggression does not alleviate pain. You can become hostile to the point where you hate someone or something. But that is not the way to deal with anger. You see, we mainly get angry when something hurts our self-esteem, or stops us from moving forward, when something scares or threatens us. Some of us suppress our anger, others explode, and some punish themselves by talking negatively and looking down on themselves. People become easy prey to all kinds of neurotic and crazy behaviour when they get angry.

Use anger to control the pain that you are in. Anger and pain blind you, so be aware when anger and pain are approaching. I heard someone once say, 'He who has a sharp tongue soon cuts his own throat'. Friend, watch your words when you are angry. If you and I speak when we are angry we will make the best speech we will live to regret. Anger makes your mouth work faster than your mind and then you wonder what you have done. It is almost a moment of momentary madness, so learn to control your passion or it will control you.

Challenge

The greatest remedy for anger is delay. Realise you are in the middle of pain, hurt, frustration or fear. Sometimes you want to get even, but you have to use your head not your emotions. Take time to think: get in between the pain and the action you are about to take. Think about why you are angry. Ask yourself what outcome you want to achieve. How can you actually get what you want without hurting someone else or yourself?

Other Motivational Books by Pat Mesiti

Attitudes and Altitudes
Pat Mesiti at his best! This book addresses the "how's" of leadership. It deals with vital principles such as leader development, how to network people and how to bring out the best in those around you. Pat Mesiti speaks on: growing big people, passion, leadership, mentoring, encouragement, attitude, credibility.

Dreamers Never Sleep
Pat Mesiti, in his comical yet challenging way, will show you how to: replace wrong perceptions with winning attitudes, deal positively with change, define your destiny, go beyond the 'norm', handle failure and discover what success really is and how it can affect your world.

Opportunity Knocks
If you are one of those millions of people around the world waiting for an opportunity to take your life to another level, then this book is for you.
1) recognize opportunities
2) grab opportunities that come your way
3) Persevere with opportunities

Wake Up and Dream
Discover the power of personal vision and how your dreams can help change the world.
The various topics include: how to rise above the limitations of your past, defining your dream, developing a plan to make your dream a reality, developing character, skills and attitudes that facilitate change, and unlocking the gifts and talents of those around you.

To obtain more information on Pat Mesiti’s Motivational Books, CD’s and products, or to book Pat as a Motivational Speaker for an upcoming event please visit www.mesiti.com

To obtain information on Pat Mesiti’s Millionaire Mindset Club, please visit www.mmclub.com.au